Why I Don't Like Surprises...

Monday, 19 December 2016

I hold my hands up, I hate surprises! I can't help it. I don't know when my hate started or if I was just born this way but I genuinely do hate them. 

I know it sounds really ungrateful, someone has gone out of their way to surprise me with something and I am moaning about it but its such a stressful situation to be put under for loads of reasons.

1. The pressure of having the reaction they had hoped for. Someone has built up how you are going to react in their head for so long, so if you don't act as happy as they had expected or as shocked or whatever they wanted you to feel, it's underwhelming on their side, rendering the whole surprise somewhat pointless and leaving you feeling even worse than when you didn't have said surprise.

2. Someone telling you that you are getting a surprise but not telling you what or when. This is the real biggie for me and my friends and family know how much this winds me up. They all now go out of their way to let me know or accidentally (on purpose) drop into conversations little murmurs of secret presents or plans. Leaving me wondering what it possibly could be in my head, thus making it a massive thing and being ultimately disappointed when it's not what I had imagined and they have just been winding me up for the sake of it again. 

3. Keeping it a secret. When you have surprises for other people, it kills me not being able to tell them. The amount of times I have to stop myself slipping up just because every time I see them I am concentrating so hard on not telling them, it's all I am thinking about so can't hold a decent conversation that doesn't include talking about it.

The whole situation in general gives me palpitations and keeps me awake at night. I am such a control freak but I don't even care any more. Surprises suck unless you don't know they are coming and the person giving you the surprise really doesn't care if you don't go inside out with excitement when you find out. 

Do you like surprises? What has been your best surprise?

Abi xo

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  1. I've always had no problem with surprises, I just hate being told I have one coming because I do far too much guesswork for my own good just like yourself

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